Connecting to Your Authentic Self


Our authentic self is the one who knows what we really want before we add the filters of culture, family, and “shoulds.” Many times in my life this self has become hidden from me. This technique is what I use to re-introduce myself to the wild, wonderful woman I am.

Use this anytime you need to get to the crux of who you are, when you can’t remember why you’re doing what you’re doing, to find out why you have a feeling that something is missing, or if you’re simply feeling blah about yourself.

I read about this years ago and I’m sorry that I can’t remember who wrote it or from which book it came. If you recognize this visualization from somewhere please add a comment below so that I can give credit where it’s due.

  1. Get into a comfortable position. Lie on the floor or sit comfortably.

  2. Take some slow, deep breaths. Feel into your body. Let yourself feel supported by the floor or chair, by the earth.

  3. When you feel relaxed imagine yourself going to a closet in your room. If you don’t have a closet, imagine you have one, or a wardrobe will work just as well. Think “The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe.” Open the door to your closet or wardrobe and imagine yourself knocking on the back wall.

  4. Once you knock a door will appear. Imagine walking through the door into a beautiful forest. The forest is vibrant and inviting. Dappled sunlight filters through tall trees. It is warm with a soft breeze. You can hear the sound of a stream nearby and birds chirping peacefully.

  5. You will see a path in the forest. Follow this path until you come upon a very large mirror standing upright in the forest. Imagine this mirror however you like. I can be round or square The frame can be wood or metal. My mirror has a beautiful metal frame of carved, scrolling vines and flowers. There are carved animals in the frame as well. This is the mirror of your authentic self so imagine it in the way that is most beautiful to you. This mirror will reflect back to you your authentic self.

  6. Now look into the mirror and invite your authentic self to show up. Welcome her. There is no one else watching. What does she look like? What is she wearing? What is she doing? Ask her anything you want to know. Be open to receiving the answers.

  7. When you feel complete thank your authentic self for showing up for you. Leave the mirror and come back to your room the way you had left, back along the path, back through the closet and into your room. The mirror will be there for you whenever you need to visit it.

Use this visualization anytime you find yourself feeling out of touch with your authentic self. It will touch you to your core to face this person, which is exactly how people will feel when you allow your authentic self to shine.

With so much love,


Carrie DeVaneyComment