How to Find What You're Looking for (Literally)

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I lost my wedding ring once. This was about 18 years ago when I lived in rural Virginia. We lived in a little house on the edge of the woods. Practically every day I’d take my toddler son on a walk through the woods to a river that ran behind our property. We’d get naked and swim, dig in the mud, build little boats, have picnics, and generally muck about until we were hungry and tired.

We’d always leave our clothes in a pile on the river bank. I was afraid of losing my wedding ring in the water or the mud so I’d take it off with the rest of my things and leave it in a pocket. One day in autumn, after our daily outing, I got back to the house and realized that I’d both forgotten to put my ring back on and also that it wasn’t in my pocket anymore.

Frantically I traced my steps back to the river. Our house was in a half acre clearing on top of a hill. Beyond the clearing was old growth forest, about ten acres of it to the river. There was a little path that we had made by walking to the river. To someone not familiar with the land it might have looked like an animal path, so undistinguished it was. The forest in autumn in Virginia is spectacular. It is a riot of color and falling leaves, lots, and lots, and lots of leaves.

I made my way back to the river, taking tiny steps, scrutinizing the ground for a glimmer of my ring. I was looking for a needle in a haystack. I knew it was impossible. At the river I sat down. I didn’t know what to do so I closed my eyes. I prayed. “Please help me find my ring,” I said. Then I held the image of my wedding ring in my mind’s eye. I felt in my heart how much I wanted to find it. I held onto the connection I had with it. All of a sudden I “saw” a spot in the forest, and I saw my ring there under the leaves. Quickly I stood up and went to that spot, which looked much the same as any other spot in the forest. It was about four feet off of the path. I crouched down and gently moved away some of the vegetation. There, under the fallen leaves, exactly where I had seen it in my mind, was my ring.

I continue to use this technique whenever I lose something that I really want to find. Here are steps to take to try it out yourself…

  1. Get calm. Close your eyes. Take some deep breaths. I find that I need a clear and calm mind for this to work. Being frantic takes up too much mental space.

  2. Ask for help. From whom or whatever you connect with. This is a helpful tool for pretty much anything you need help with in your life. Even if you don’t believe anyone or thing is listening try it out. It can’t hurt and you might be surprised what you hear.

  3. Hold the image in your mind. Clearly picture that which you are looking for.

  4. Feel your connection with this object. The stronger your connection with the item the easier it will be to find it.

  5. Go where you are shown.

I hope this helps you find what you are looking for. Leave me a comment below and let me know how it goes.

With love,


Carrie DeVaneyComment